yours to give

March 23, 2012

Oh Creative One! The phrase at our house when the littles squabble over toys is, “That _____ is yours to share.” It is a nice saying in that it recognizes the person’s sense of ownership but also communicates the expectation that sharing is also a necessary part of life in our home. That being said, it doesn’t really surprise me much when a 4 year old simply doesn’t share very well, particularly objects she sees as necessary to her existence. It doesn’t surprise me because I don’t see most adults sharing prized possessions, “Here….you may borrow my car, my house, my….” Doesn’t happen much. Last night, on the final episode of Heidibot’s Project Runway All-Stars, Mondo said something to the effect the season reminded him that his gifts are for giving. 

Talented Creative One! I know how very special your gifts are. Though you may belong to the clan of photographers or designers or painters or singers or knitters that roam our earth, you do have something special that makes your work yours alone. But, this weekend, remember that your talents are yours to share. I’m always thankful when you do share because your work often awakens something in my own creative soul. Many thanks my dear creative one!

What to Do with Trophies

March 16, 2012

Oh Creative One! Every year on American Idol, it is the same thing. A singer is told that he/she has the “best voice” yet, or heard today or ever.  Early on, if you can hit a note and wear deodorant and pass for sane, then you are deemed to have a great voice and are slathered with compliments. I have been in a similar position. When someone likes my writing, a part of me is relieved and relaxed and thrilled. It feels  simply good to hear that someone else sees why you like what you do. Then, later on in the competition, the contestant falters. He/she fails to get the votes or hit the notes. What then? Where do the contestants go?  How abandoned the contestant must feel. How let-down the contestant must feel. Once told he/she was amazing and then told that he/she failed and is no longer the “best voice” yet, today, ever….

Adored Creative One! I’ve got a task for you. When you receive these compliments, I want you to put them on a shelf in your heart as if they were trophies. I want you to keep them as shiny markers of a moment in time. View these compliments as markers of the time when your talent and your hard work collided with another’s recognition. Put them on that shelf in your heart. Look at them now and then. Buff them up and let them sparkle. But do not take them with you when you walk out your door. They will become too heavy to carry and cumbersome if you take them all. What’s more, what will you do when you fail? Carry that with you too? No, these compliments and failures are simply markers in time. Do not let them get in the way of your gifts. Now, get back to work.

What to Do with Trophies

March 16, 2012

Oh Creative One! Every year on American Idol, it is the same thing. A singer is told that he/she has the “best voice” yet, or heard today or ever.  Early on, if you can hit a note and wear deodorant and pass for sane, then you are deemed to have a great voice and are slathered with compliments. I have been in a similar position. When someone likes my writing, a part of me is relieved and relaxed and thrilled. It feels  simply good to hear that someone else sees why you like what you do. Then, later on in the competition, the contestant falters. He/she fails to get the votes or hit the notes. What then? Where do the contestants go?  How abandoned the contestant must feel. How let-down the contestant must feel. Once told he/she was amazing and then told that he/she failed and is no longer the “best voice” yet, today, ever….

Adored Creative One! I’ve got a task for you. When you receive these compliments, I want you to put them on a shelf in your heart as if they were trophies. I want you to keep them as shiny markers of a moment in time. View these compliments as markers of the time when your talent and your hard work collided with another’s recognition. Put them on that shelf in your heart. Look at them now and then. Buff them up and let them sparkle. But do not take them with you when you walk out your door. They will become too heavy to carry and cumbersome if you take them all. What’s more, what will you do when you fail? Carry that with you too? No, these compliments and failures are simply markers in time. Do not let them get in the way of your gifts. Now, get back to work.

Wallow

March 15, 2012

Oh, Creative One! I am a Project Runway fan. So much so, that even in light of this questionable all-star season, I am a watcher. I have it set on record and still watch it live. We creatives must take note of Mondo’s dilemma during last week’s episode. He was designing sketchless, which was normal for him, but quite different for the guest judge – Nanette Lepore. He was low, depressed, and hadn’t ever questioned his direction like that before. What did Mondo do? He stared at his un-moored creativity and kept at it. He literally powered through the doubt and worry and won the episode’s challenge.

Questioning Creative One! I often recommend taking a break or trying something new when you are in a worrisome rut. Not this time. This time, I want you to work past that fretful point. I want you to surround yourself with the process and environment that have helped you be successful in the past. Then, I want you to do too much, go too far, stare into that sickening pit of worry during your next creative block. You might find that you had nothing to worry about at all. Or, you might find that it does indeed truly stink, but that knowledge will bring its own lovely lessons to your creative doorstep.